Relationship: My husband had an affair with another woman in the office  and called her home 

Her husband had an affair with another young woman in the office. With this, she called the young woman home and requested her to leave her husband. The wife described her grief that her husband had stopped talking to her since then.

Problem: I am a 32 year old woman. I have been married for about nine years. My husband was in a relationship with his co-worker. I was shocked to see the emails that the two of them had secretly sent recently. I warned my husband to stay away from her. But, he was not ready for that. Eventually I called her home and requested her to leave my husband. With this she left saying that she understood my pain and would never meet my husband again. From the day after this happened my husband stopped talking to me. Now we both live as strangers in the same house. He would get angry if I tried to say anything. Our son was also tired of seeing our quarrels. Is there any way to get my life back? What should I do? The confusion of whether or not the two of them are still in a relationship also haunts me.

Answer: Now rather than thinking about the relationship between you and your husband and another woman .. it is important to focus on how to rebuild the bond between you and your husband. That is, think about why he is attracted to women outside while you are at home. So look for ways to change yourself. Because .. you have already called that woman home and there are rivalries between you. Now don’t make that problem any bigger by mentioning the same thing again. You also have a baby. So .. it is very important that the two of you are together. Otherwise .. that effect is likely to fall on your child.

My wife does the same thing every day .. that suffering is unbearable, and finally in the bedroom ..

So one should try to eliminate the conflicts without mentioning the things that irritate him right now. If possible try to maintain daily conversations between you. Even if he is angry or irritated, keep trying to come up with something. As a result he may one day return to normal. However, this may take some time. There may be some change in him of late, by doing the things he likes. Try for reconciliation through a good friend or family member you both know. Must be brave at a time like this. Must be mentally strong. Get the support of your friends or family for this. Be especially careful not to damage your boy’s future. Make sure your husband understands this. At least the child can change.

‘I love my girlfriend .. but, I don’t trust her .. doing so with her friends’

Advisor: Kamna Chibber, Mental Health and Behavioral Sciences Specialist

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