Har puruṣ ko jaananaa chaahie

mard ko kabhee dard naheen hotaa. Yah ḍaŏyalŏg fil‍mee hai aur hakeekat se isakaa koii vaas‍taa naheen. To fir aakhir k‍yaa hai puruṣat‍v kee pahachaan. Puruṣat‍v ko tay karane kaa koii likhit niyam naheen hai, lekin ek baat to hai ki usamen naaṭakeeyataa naheen honee chaahie. Dimaag aur khoobasooratee alag baat hai, lekin kuchh aise kaam hain, jo kisee puruṣ ko avash‍y aane chaahie. Ye hunar aapako yah naheen bataate ki aakhir ek 'asalee mard' kaise banaa jaa_e, balki ye aapako jeevan bhar ke lie leeḍaar banaate hain. Chalie jaanate hain aisee 12 cheejen jinake baare men har puruṣ ko jaananaa chaahie.

Aag jalaanaa

aapako kainping pasnd hai, ghoomanaa firanaa pasnd hai, lekin aapako aag jalaanaa naheen aataa.... To ! Yah paristhiti aapake lie bahut vikaṭ ho sakatee hai. Kainp men jaanaa ho yaa kaheen baahar ghoomane aapake paas ye hunar to honaa hee chaahie. Raat gujaarane se lekar khaanaa pakaane tak yah bahut kaam kee cheej ho sakatee hai.

Aujaaron kee mool samajh

jarooree naheen ki aap maikenik hee ban jaa_en. Lekin, puruṣon ko 'jaik ŏf ŏl ṭreḍaas' honaa chaahie. Rojamarraa men is‍temaal hone vaale upakaraṇaon ke baare men un‍hen moolabhoot jaanakaaree honee chaahie. Un‍hen maaloom honaa chaahie ki unamen k‍yaa kamee ho sakatee hai. K‍yaa aap ek chhoṭaa saa pench kholane ke lie bhee kisee kee madad lete hain, yaa fir bal‍b athavaa ṭyoob badalanaa bhee aapake bas kee baat naheen, to janaab aapako in‍hen jal‍d seekh lenaa chaahie. Aapake ghar par chhoṭe-moṭe aujaar hone chaahie aur saath hee aapako un‍hen is‍temaal karane ke tareeke bhee maaloom hone chaahie.

Jaisaa desh vaisaa bheṣ

ka_ii puruṣ is hunar se pooree tarah vaakif naheen hote. Ve maukon par ovaraḍares hote hain. Sooṭ har mauke par sahee naheen ho sakataa. Sabase jarooree baat yah hai ki aapako maaloom ho ki kis mauke par k‍yaa pahanaa aur kaise pahanaa jaa_e yah jaananaa bahut jarooree hai. Yadi aapako is baat kaa naheen pataa, to aap kisee v‍yakti kee salaah bhee le sakate hain. Yah baat dh‍yaan rakhen ki kaam, shahar aur sns‍kriti ke anusaar kapade pahanane kaa andaaj badalataa rahataa hai.

Paise kaa khel

s‍ṭŏk maarkeṭ kaa khel har kisee kee samajh se pare hai, lekin aapako faa_inens kee moolabhoot jaanakaaree to honee hee chaahie. Aapako itanaa to pataa hee honaa chaahie ki aakhir aapakaa paisaa kahaan se aataa hai aur kahaan jaataa hai. Yadi aapako is baat kaa sahee andaajaa naheen hai, to ek din aaraam se baiṭhakar hisaab lagaa_ie ki aakhir aisaa k‍yon hai. Aur ise sudhaaraa kaise jaa sakataa hai. Isake lie visheṣagy se sahaayataa lene men bhee koii sharm naheen. Khaanaa pakaanaa

bhaarat men khaanaa pakaane ko keval mahilaa_on tak seemit kar diyaa jaataa hai, lekin aap bhee ise seekh sakate hain. Abhee tak to aap fon ghumaakar khaanaa ŏrḍaar karane men mahaarat haasil kar chuke hain, to ab jaraa khaanaa pakaanaa bhee seekh‍ liyaa jaa_e. Ham aapako maas‍ṭar shef banane ke lie naheen kah rahe, lekin itanaa to ho ki aap apane p‍yaaron ke lie apane haath se khaanaa pakaa saken.

Maan-apamaan se oopar uṭhen

yah kaam bahut mushkil hai. Yah aisaa maanaveey guṇa hai, jisase paar paanaa kaafee mushkil hai. Isake lie krodh par niyntraṇa bahut jarooree hai. Paarking yaa sadk par jaraa see baat hone par aap marane-maarane ko ootaaroor ho jaate hain... Yah koii bahaaduree kaa kaam naheen, balki vaas‍tav men ise moorkhataa hee kahaa jaa_egaa. Hinsaa aur pratihinsaa kisee samas‍yaa kaa hal naheen. Isakaa arth kaayarataa naheen hai, balki apanee shakti ko v‍yarth hone se bachaanaa hai.

Taayar badalan

aapake paas kaar to hai, lekin usakaa pnk‍char ṭaayar badalanaa aapako naheen aataa. Isake chalate aap ka_ii baar daftar ke lie leṭ ho chuke hain, lekin fir bhee yah kaam aap seekhanaa naheen chaahate. Yadi aisaa hai to ab sharam chhoḍaixye aur ṭaayar badalanaa seekh leejie. Is kaam ke lie maikenik kaa intajaar karane se aapakaa vak‍t aur paisaa donon barbaad hote hain. Kuchh vak‍t nikaalakar ise seekh leejie. Yah koii aisaa jaṭil kaam bhee naheen ki jise seekhane ke lie visheṣ dakṣataa kee aavash‍yakataa ho.

Na banen apane munh miyaan miṭhṭhoo

har baat men apanee badaa_ii n karen. Aapake alaavaa bhee duniyaa men aur log hain, unakee apanee samajh hai, apanaa anubhav hai aur apanaa gyaan hai. Aapako un‍hen bhee mahat‍vapoorṇa samajhanaa chaahie. Yadi aapakee adhikatar baaten, 'main k‍yaa kah rahaa hoon', 'meree baat sun' athavaa is tarah ke an‍y vaak‍yon se shuroo hotee hain to vak‍t hai ki aap baatacheet kaa andaaj badalen. Baar-baar puraanee baaton kee ḍheeng maarane se ach‍chhaa hai ki kuchh nayaa seekhaa jaa_e, kuchh nayaa rachanaat‍mak kiyaa jaa_e, isase aapake gyaan aur samajh kaa vikaas hogaa.

Tie baandhanaa

snbhav hai ki aapako rojaanaa isakee jaroorat n pade, lekin khaas maukon par yah hunar kaafee kaam aataa hai. Yadi aapako ṭaa_ii baandhanaa naheen aataa hai, to isake lie aap apane kisee dos‍t kee sahaayataa le sakate hain. Yadi aisaa kar paanaa snbhav n ho, to inṭaraneṭ par maujood veeḍaiyo ke jariye bhee ise seekhaa jaa sakataa hai. Yadi aapako besik ṭaa_ii baandhanee aatee hai, to aap 'haaf-vinḍaasar' athavaa prek nŏṭ jaise rachanaat‍mak ḍhng bhee seekh sakate hain.

Doosare kee bhee sunen

'yaa to mere raas‍te par chalo, yaa raas‍taa naapo' vaalaa ravaiyaa sahee naheen hai. S‍vas‍th parnparaa to yahee hai ki aap doosare pakṣ kee baat bhee sunen. Use pooree tavaj‍jo den aur usakee mahat‍taa ko samajhen. Kisee ko baat ko keval isalie nakaar denaa k‍yonki aap usase sahamat naheen hain, jaayaj naheen ṭhaharaayaa jaa sakataa. Bhale hee aap kisee kee baat se sahamat naheen, lekin aap usase apanee baat kahane kaa adhikaar naheen chheen sakate.

Aalochanaa s‍veekaaranaa

aalochanaa_on ko s‍veekaar karanaa seekhen. Yah kaam kaafee mushkil hai. Akasar log aalochanaa aur nindaa men antar naheen mahasoos kar paate. Ve aalochanaa ko aham se jod lete hain. Jo bahut galat aadat hai. S‍vas‍th aalochanaa aapako behatar inasaan banaane men madad karatee hai. Yah aalochanaa kisee bhee baat ko lekar ho sakatee hai. Aapake v‍yavahaar, kapade pahanane ke tareeke aur khaanaa pakaane aadi ko lekar. Aalochanaa_on ko nakaar denaa athavaa un par t‍varit aur gus‍se men pratikriyaa denaa s‍vas‍th tareekaa naheen hai. Aalochanaa_on se kaafee kuchh seekhaa jaa sakataa hai.

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